I [F] just wanted to drop you an image of my little guy [M] in his happy place between my thighs. Don't give up hope. Gentle/Mommy Dommes exist and/or may be cultivated. Know what you want and seek it, craft it.
Ever wake up late, throw some random clothes on, leave the house just to realize you forgot your bra and underwear? Me neither. But at least I remembered my coffee!